When dealing with people in both the real and virtual world, it’s inevitable we’ll face some situation where we need to decide if we should address an issue or overlook it.
Me? I find it’s usually best to overlook. Mentioning some things can be counterproductive.
And yet there are times we should say something.
Some people hate confrontation so much they flee or resort to dishonesty to escape it. Others live for drama and become nastier than whoever they say wronged them.
I’ve learned over the years in dealing with people, two particular “rules” I try to follow. I’m not always successful, but I try, and if I do these two things it’s easier to live in peace with everyone.
- Be honest.
- Be kind.
Too simple? It’s not as easy as it looks. Think about it!
We all know those brutally frank “tell it like it is” types who if we don’t like what they have to say, well, too bad, because that’s who they are! They believe they’re cool for being honest, but I think if we’re going to knock someone over, at least give them a pillow to fall on. (Unless they really deserve a beating!)
Other people are the opposite. They’re incredibly sweet and say whatever people want to hear even if it’s not true. These types are popular at first – until we learn they’re not honest. The truth eventually comes out.
To be both honest and kind is a challenge, and if we’re in the position of wondering whether we should confront someone, it probably means they’ve done something we don’t like. We then have to ask ourselves, do we want to fix a situation or do we want to hurt the person?
What brought this on? Thinking about those I’ve encountered over the years. It’s not always easy to deal with other humans, and I’ve had my share of screw ups; but I really do try to be honest and kind if I can.